I complain a lot about sleep in this blog. And in real life. My sleep deprivation is real, but I know that it is also temporary. Somehow, I have to keep that fact at the forefront of my mind, as a talisman to get me through the day. I complain about Hubs sleeping in and not getting up to help me and the kids start the day. It irks me. The truth is that he's not all bad. Hubs works about a gazillion hours a week at the company he started last year. His dedication and stamina astound me. I sometimes complain that he loves his company more than us, but I think he works so hard for us. So that I can stay home with the kids while they're small. So that we can build a better life. I am proud of him.
Hubs isn't going to start getting up at the crack of dawn with us anytime soon. I need to just accept that and move on. The kids have accepted it, the dog has accepted it, they don't even bother going to his side of the bed. I need to be thankful that I have a husband who works hard, and is such a good dad once he does wake up. No one can win the argument we've been having. I am busy. Hubs is busy. I am tired. Hubs is tired. Life with 2 small children, a fledgling company, a century home and a black dog is bound to have some ups and downs. It's time to just stop bickering and move on.
Thanks Karen.
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Karen that is a great "think different" I really understand where you are coming from.
I have read quite a few inspirational posts in last few days. Yours was tops too !
Is your sleep deprivation caused by insomnia on your part or is it kids/dog fuelled? Or a combination of the two?
I wish you sleep and peace with your husband!
Heidi
I sleep fine until the 2nd or 3rd time the boy wakes me up. Then the dog's snoring, or the husband's snoring, or the huge list of things in my head makes it impossible to go back to sleep!
You know, I needed to read that.
We have the same argument in our house (though we both work full time).
Sometimes "get over it" is the best advice.
Mind you, I wouldn't mind if my body let me sleep till 6 am. That would be nice.
My sister has a baby boy, Emil, who's 8 months old. He's been a terrible sleeper from day one. Three nights ago, she was so worn out from the lack of sleep, she decided to let him cry to see if he'd go back to sleep. He screamed - at the top of his lungs - for a full 2 hours. But then he went back to sleep. For the first time ever by himself (yeah, he's pretty spoiled - we all fight to rock him to sleep). Anyway, the next night, he cried - less fervently so - for 1 hour. Last night, he slept 11 hours straight through.
She is a new woman today. She had a rough pregnancy, so all told, she probably hasn't slept well for almost a year. Last night was pure heaven on earth for her :)
I'm not suggesting Badness should CIO, I have no idea what your situation is like. But I totally understand how lack of sleep can affect you, and even more so now by watching my sister over the past 5 months. It spills over and affect all other aspects of your life.
With your husband's brand new company, and all the accompanying stress, work and worry, I'm not surprised there's occasional fireworks at your house.
But hang in there. This too shall pass!
Heidi
I remember the early days of sleep deprivation - you'll make it through! This was a great post. I need to learn to "think differently" about some things too.
He does do it for you, that is how husbands think. 'If I can only work harder and provide better and make them happier, then I am doing my job as a man.'
I find that infinitely frustrating at times, I want him to just be with us, that is what makes me happy.
But I guess we have to be accommodating of their needs as well. This is such a thought provoking post, thanks Badness.
I really pray that you will find some relief from the sleeplessness, it makes it almost impossible to deal with anything else properly.
great idea. think different
Badness, thanks for sharing your post and for playing along. Although I wouldn't really call this playing... I really had to think about this one.
You've got young kids, so the sleep deprivation is a no brainer. And with your husband and the new company, even though he's working a gazillion hours and is being a very dedicated dad in that respect, it does put a heavier weight on your shoulders with the kids and household et al. More to do, more to think about, a lot less sleep. We actually had our own bicker session last night about similar stuff. Maybe it's the moon :)
I don't sleep enough either; I'm also a night owl and a light sleeper, and I'm married to a guy who is soooooo not a morning person, so I can sympathize. And after 14 years of marriage and two kids, yes, even though I often complain, I have moved on LOL! You have to, because they really are worth it. As you obviously know.
And thank YOU for sharing this.
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