Saturday, November 7, 2009

And then light shone down from the heavens and the angels sang....

So. That last post was a wee bit negative, wasn't it? (Thanks everybody for your supportive and encouraging words!) I wasn't a happy camper, and I let that mood follow me around for a long time. This week, however, I had an allelujah moment. Bad's been on the waiting list for a speech assessment since his 2nd birthday (11 months ago!) and on Monday the clinic called me. They'd had a cancellation for Thursday, and did we want the appointment? YES we did. On Thursday morning I used all my evil mommy powers to trick Bad into wearing matching, season appropriate clothing. (Gotta make a good impression!) We dropped the Princess off at school and headed off to the speech 'doctor'. (Boy loves doctors, go figure.) While we were sitting in their toy-filled wonderland of a waiting room, I spied the following title on their bookshelves:






The title caught my eye, because when I try to explain Bad to people, I always say "his spirit is just too big for his little body to control." And the subtitle on the book? A Guide for Parents Whose Child Is More Intense, Sensitive, Perceptive, Persistent, and Energetic - MORE. That's what Bad is! He's MORE. I plucked it down and started reading, and wow. I managed to read the introduction, and skim through some of the chapters before being called into our appointment, and just that little bit has helped me reframe his behaviour and deal with him more effectively. I am going out to buy a copy today.

And his appointment? He's got a lateral lisp and some articulation issues, but he scored in the 98th percentile for his language skills. The speech pathologist couldn't believe how well he did (the test she used is for 3-6 year olds). He's going to start articulation therapy next week, and as were leaving she said, "Karen (the therapist he'll be working with) is just going to eat him up." I've always known he was awesome, but I'll admit that the preschool incident really shook me up, and having a stranger recognize his charm and potential really helped me shake off the blues. I'm should be back to my regularly scheduled crazy in no time.

6 comments:

Veronica Foale said...

Yes, some kids are just MORE. Amy is MORE. It makes it harder sometimes, especially when you see all these placid little kids who do as they're told, but I wouldn't trade my more for anything.

ali said...

My eldest was/is one of those kids. It took me a long time to learn the right way to manage him. That book sounds great.

The fact that Bad's language is so excellent will stand him in good stead when it comes to helping resolve his artic issues. He'll probably enjoy all the therapy activities a lot because it's fun one on one time!

Jen on the Edge said...

I'm glad to see you online and hear that things are better!

Laural Dawn said...

That is AWESOME!!!
I wish your Bad could meet my Matt. That is exactly how I describe Matt. He is wonderful but intense (either intense joy/energy/excitement). I'm so glad you aren't breaking his spirit to fit a mold.

Nina said...

Mary Sheedy Kurchinka (author of Spirited Child) is AMAZING. I also love her book, Sleepless in America. Sounds like he's a great kid. :)

Mighty Morphin' Mama said...

This is fantastic, I hope it is going well.
I love that framing, 'He is just... MORE!' I have a couple of those too:)